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Defining Goals The Right Way

Updated: May 28, 2020

Focus on what you want and not on what you don’t want. Ask yourself what you can do in each life area to put you on track to achieving your vision.

Set SMART goals.






“I want to have more time for myself” or “I want to lose weight” are aspirational aims but do not work as concrete goals. In terms of smart goals, they might sound like this: “I want to lose five pounds in the next four weeks so that I can fit into my dress/suit again.” This goal is specific (lose weight), measurable (five pounds), attractive (to fit into the dress/suit again), realistic (five pounds in four weeks) and time - related (four weeks).

The important thing here is: You know exactly what you want and have it clearly in your mind. This is why, you should set yourself positive goals.

“Focus on what you want to achieve, and not on what you want to avoid.”

Thoughts such as “I want to be less stressed,” “I want to eat less,” “I will no longer be taken be taken advantage of,” or “I don’t want to worry about money anymore” direct your focus to a deficiency, I.e to something you don’t want anymore. Instead, you should focus on what you want to achieve. If you focus on time, weight loss, a feeling of ease, prosperity, or love, the focus will be redirected from the deficiency to a new goal. After all, everything we turn our attention to is magnified in life - the negative and the positive. Think of the law of attraction, and manifesting what you want in life. Think of some positive affirmations, “I am committed to myself and will say NO if I don’t have time.”

I like to think of myself as a “yes” person. I say yes to most things in life but this can also lead to burnt out, so its just as important to say “no” to the things that do not serve us.

We are striving to create CLARITY in our goals and the desired result. The more you think about what you want and not about what you don’t want, the more it will feel real to you and gradually become more evident in your life!

To follow on from this, my next blog post will be about visualization, the law of attraction, and how you can manifest what you want in life. Stay Tuned.

With love, light, positivity & magic,

Hollie Sky (Mrs Shardlow)

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